This year has been nothing short of a roller coaster for Cardi B. With h-it records, welcoming a new life into the world, feuds for days, and five Grammy nominations, the road has been filled with many highs and some lows. Unless you live under a rock, you have heard the news of her se-paration from husband Offset. While most of us side-eye the situation, wondering if they are done, it is interesting to see the details play out over social media outlets. Cardi’s transparency is what drew most us fans to her in the first place, and a few days ago, she b-roke the news of her se-paration from her husband via Instagram explaining:
“It’s nobody fault. I guess we grew out of love but we are not together anymore… it might take time to get a and I’m going to always have a lot of love for him because he is my daughter’s father.”
I personally was shocked by Cardi’s tact and poise when addressing this new life event, given her refreshingly nature, but days later, we found out that it was just the calm before the storm. Each day, there seem to be more details released in reference to Offset’s infidelity, and given the history of this whirlwind romance, it is not surprising.
I am sure Cardi will make the decision she feels is best for herself and her adorable daughter Kulture; and at the very least, the two will be able to come into a union as co-parents. However, I am shocked by the responses of many people urging Cardi to take her husband back amidst all this , mainly after her husband’s public Instagram plea for her to forgive him and to take him back as a birthday wish. Derrick Jaxn, Author and Self Love Ambassador, weighed in and said:
“People are talking about ‘Take him back Cardi B!’… People are talking about ‘Offset I am rooting for you bro, praying for you bro,’ and it’s like, in the beginning, it was a joke. People were talking about taking Offset back, which is a mockery of the sh-t that a woman goes through whenever she gets and she gets her heart . At this point, all of those types of comments are downright disgusting because they totally disregard what Cardi B is going through.”
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When are we going to stop glorifying dysfunctional relationships especially at the cost of a woman’s heart? Are we so caught up on being his peace, that we are willing to encourage our women to be in pieces for the sake of romance? Is it that important?
What gets me hyped up in the gist of couples being b-roken apart because of a man’s infidelity, is the disregard that others have for the woman on the receiving end of the behavior. I hear much more advice along the lines of “people make mistakes” and “you can’t let this get in the way of your love” than I hear people telling women that they deserve better and that there is an abundance of men out there that will respect your commitment on the first try.
Let’s not ignore the bruise that leaves on a woman’s heart and self-esteem and how embarrassing the whole ordeal is. The decision that a woman makes to continue a relationship after infidelity is her own, however, let’s not make ‘struggle love’ the standard for relationships because it is not inclusive. There are a scarcity of men that will take back a woman after infidelity, so there is no shame in a woman making it a deal breaker as well.